Blah, Blah, Blah In Your Dreams ……..
Sorry, I haven’t been on board sooner. Bad Friend! Bad Friend! Bad, bad, bad. Baaaadddddd.
My new rule of thumb is to go with your strongest feeling. If you’re still confused then go with your first instinct.
Cyberscribe, sometimes things have a way of taking care of themselves. Maybe your sister needed a break, but I have a suspicion that if you didn’t step forward, your brother probably would have.
I could say I don’t have to worry about taking care of my parents as my sisters are closer than I am. I think they have some resentments though as being the providers of care and financial subsidies. What else can you do though?
At least you have kids to reject you, I don’t have anyone.
By the time any of us are at that age, the world will be a vastly different place. There could be completely new medicines to combat brain disease or we could all be dieing in our 70’s because the medical system has gone to crap.
The weirderst thing of all is Ken wearing earrings. Was Ken starting to make friends in Co.? Did you get to see your church friends before you left?
What happened to your dog?
Blue Moon had a seizure. I was sure she was a goner. Or possessed. Or haunted. No really, because it was very wierd. I can see why in ancient times if you had a seizure people thought you were touched by a god or possessed. You are so out of control.
Blue Moon seems to be fine now. I kind of wonder if she is in pain. There is no way of telling. She sleeps a lot sometimes (more in the past 2 years or so), but I thought that was just because she is getting old for a cat. I think she is sixteen.
The vet said she might have a brain tumor or it was a one time occurences. As long as her quality of like seems good (and I hope it is), things will continue as they are now.
Anyway…..
Regards,
AM
Anita,
The dog came with us… and is adjusting to being an eastern small town dog. We have a fenced yard where she gets to run loose and chase the squirrels who are frequent visitors. She’s also met lots more company here (with friends and family combined) than she ever met out there. The down side is that her immune system has to adjust to the humidity here. She’s exhibiting arthritic symptoms and an ear infection. The vet put her on glucosamine for animals so hopefully that will come in time. The most fun part has been watching the cat and dog’s reaction to being back together again. We live in a ranch house that has a decent hallway, and the furniture is arranged so that they have circles to go around in. They play more here than they did even in PW. And the cat loves the sun porch and the huge varieties of birds to watch. She also loves getting down in the basement which is 3x the size of the one in PW, and hiding in all kinds of places. So, I think they’ve both adjusted well to the change. Of course, they are loving that we are all together again.
Check into getting seizure medication for Blue Moon. Mom’s other dog had seizures on a regular basis and they were able to control them somewhat with meds. Her personality changed though, to the point that she was attacking & fighting with Mom’s other dog, and Mom was getting bit on a regular basis trying to break them up. The dog finally had to be put down.
As for that spouse of mine… yes, he was making quite a few friends in CR, and hated to leave. But I think he’s enjoying being back with old friends here. I think he’s just coming out of his shell and realizing that he doesn’t have to be the stuffed shirt that he’s always seen himself as. I keep telling him that the rest of the world never saw him as that stuffed shirt, yet accepted him as he is, but he needs to accept himself as that…. a real identity crisis.
Hmm… it sounds like you’d like to adopt my kids… go ahead… if you need to face rejection that badly. 🙂
As for the caretaking issue, we’ve settled into routines that are best for us, I guess. The brother that’s here helps Mom to pay her bills (on his good days), while the distant one gives advice from afar. My sister is there for backup for me, if needed. And Mom is paying a caretaker that comes in 3x a week for the nitty gritty stuff. The pharmacist voluntarily sets Mom’s meds up for the month, which has been a lifesaver. So we just have to fill in for things like vet appointments, putting on stockings on the weekends, etc.
And while both my husband and I have to adjust to the weather, traffic, and other challenges of east coast living (the crimes on the news at night), we are both enjoying being in a place where we can have all the seafood we want, fresh veggies we will be able to grow in our own backyard, and access to the ocean on a several times a year basis if we want it.
There are career decisions for me to make, but I’m going to post those thoughts in my K12 vs. Higher Ed blog, and I could use the input of you two. So please write comments on that blog.